DO YOU REALLY NEED SELF-IMPROVEMENT?

Recently someone asked me what excites me the most about studying and teaching the ITM Alexander Technique. What came to mind was how with this work in my life I constantly experience myself as improving.

I am better at doing the things I love to do. I feel better in my body, I am fitter, I am healthier, my relationships improve constantly and I enjoy life more. I have my ups and downs, my wobbles and my downright bad decisions but even those get easier to deal with as time goes on.

According to F.M Alexander the greatest unhappiness is created when people experience themselves as degenerating, rather then improving as they age.

People sometimes bristle at the concept of “improvement”. I think this is because it is easy to hear in it some suggestion that what they are doing may not be good enough.

In fact, when things are not working as well as we wish in any part of our life many of us tend to jump to the conclusion that WE ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

We believe that if only we were more smart, patient, kind, compassionate, brave, bold etc, this list could go on and on, things would be going better for us.

These beliefs are false.

If you would like to see improvement in any part of your life, the one thing I can promise you is that you don’t need to improve your self. You don’t need to be smarter, kinder, braver or anything else “er.”

You are perfect and fine just as you are. In fact, you are a miracle.

However, you may want to take a look at what you are doing and how you are doing it. More importantly you want to check if that “what” and “how” matches up with your goals and aspirations.

One of the many gifts the work of F.M Alexander offers us is a whole new way to look at “how we are doing things”.

The work offers a whole tool-kit of processes and principles to address what we do and how we do it.

The magic? As you take these ideas and principles on board, you cannot avoid experiencing what I would describe as improvement in yourself.

And this is important. Very important. Because over the years I, like Alexander, have come to believe that improvement, learning, evolving and developing are important aspects of being human and an essential component to living a full and satisfying life.

Can you think of any area of your life in which you feel deficient? How would it feel to no longer see yourself as deficient, but simply see that you could do things a little differently? Can you define your aspirations in that area? Can you see any small easy changes you could make that could help you move in the direction of those aspirations?